Archive for the ‘Marriage’ Category

What’s the Big Deal?

I don’t know what kind of response to expect from this next commentary, but I’ll take my chances: Milrae and I went to the hair salon recently to get our hair cut, and group of young women were discussing some pastors who had refused to marry couples that were living together. At the end of the discussion, one young lady wondered aloud, “What’s the big deal?”

I couldn’t keep silent, so I said this: As a pastor, I would have to take the side of those other men, and I believe that a couple should live apart until marriage. Needless to say, the conversation came to a rather abrupt end. I would like to take this opportunity to expand on my statement.

First of all, God’s word says couples living together outside of marriage are living in sin. This is not news, and this sin is no more or less a sin than any other. As with any other sin, it is forgivable. Also, statistics have proven that living together before marriage leads to a greater possibility that the marriage will fail. Most pastors I know who choose not to bless that kind of relationship, would be glad to conduct the ceremony if the concerned parties would confess the sin, repent of it, and live apart for a time as evidence of that repentance. You see, in God’s eyes, and in his plan for marriage, it is a “big deal”, even if the culture we live in tells us it doesn’t matter.

Speaking the Truth in love,
Pastor Jerry

Married in Heaven?

This week, I’ll share a few thoughts from my Sunday message. The text was from Matthew’s gospel, and based on Jesus’ response to a question concerning marriage in heaven. I have observed that there are many people with ideas about heaven that just are not found in the Bible. I pray this will shed light on at least one of those.

Some religious leaders, Sadducees by name, came to Jesus with a story about a woman who had been married to seven different men, all brothers. Their question was, “Who’s wife will she be at the resurrection?” These men did not believe in the resurrection, that is why they were sad, you see…

Anyway, Jesus answered them with this: “You are in error because you do not know the Scriptures or the power of God. At the resurrection people will neither marry nor be given in marriage; they will be like the angels in heaven” (Matthew 22:29-30).

Marriage was ordained by God for the purpose of procreation, that is to produce children who would grow up to be godly adults. It is strictly for this life and in the earthly realm. In heaven there will be no place for man/wife relations, nor any need for any new life to be born there. There will be no exclusive relationships there. Jesus said we will be like angels. The angels do not marry.

I’m certain that we will know old friends, acquaintances, and family members, but all our focus will be on worshiping God, and the Lord Jesus Christ. That will be heaven, and that is the Truth.

In the apostle John’s vision of heaven recorded in Revelation, we read, “Then I heard what sounded like a great multitude, like the roar of rushing waters and like loud peals of thunder, shouting: ‘Hallelujah! For our Lord God almighty reigns. Let us rejoice and be glad and give him glory!'” (Revelation 19:6-7).

Sharing His Truth in love,
Pastor Jerry

God’s View of Marriage

Dear friends,
Spring time brings out a lot of things. Flowers and leaves on the trees, dandelions, colts, calves, kittens, and others.
Love blossoms in spring, also. Wedding plans are being made as couples, young and not so young, prepare for life together.
The culture of today seems intent on downplaying marriage, and those who chose to marry seem committed to the vows they make only as long as things are going well. I may be a voice “crying in the wilderness”, but at some point I believe we need to return to taking those vows seriously once again. Many of us are too familiar with the tragedy of divorce and broken homes. Children bounce back and forth between parents, and have nothing that could be called stability in their lives.
I believe some of this relates to the fact that young men are not taught to respect the ladies the way they once were. More and more we hear stories of verbal, emotional and physical abuse leading to divorce. Granted, these occurred in the past, but I believe it is much more prevalent in our day. If young men were taught the biblical standard for husbands, wives would receive much better treatment.
I also believe that if husbands behaved as they should, their wives would be much more apt to respect them and their position as head of the household.
I’ll close with some scriptures that speak to this topic: Speaking of marriage… “Therefore, what God has joined together, let man not separate” (Matthew 19:6).
Of husbands… “Husbands, love your wives, just as Christ loved the church and gave himself up for her” (Ephesians 5:25). “Husbands, love your wives and do not be harsh with them” (Colossians 3:19).
This one for wives isn’t popular with some, but it is in the Book: “Wives, submit to your husbands, as is fitting in the Lord” (Colossians 3:18).
I believe it begins with the husband having a right relationship with the Lord. This then will affect his relationship with his wife, and in turn he will receive her respect.
If God’s plan is allowed to take precedence in the marriage, everyone benefits.

Just thinking,
Pastor Jerry